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Scott-56Our men are under siege and are involved in a daily and oftentimes ignored fight for their lives. While women’s issues rightly are at the forefront of our minds and actions, and rightly so, as historically (and today still) they have been used, abused and ignored, we have at the same time in this society taken our eyes off of the men and boys and we are now reaping the deadly fruits.

 

When it comes to the raising of our young men we have failed miserably. Take, for example, work ethic. We, as a society, complain and moan that our men have no drive and/or ambition, what do you expect when we live in a society in which a boy child is or may be mocked and called a “mama man” when he does any housework, even washing? How do you create a lust for success and ambition when our boys are either treated as little princes or thugs?

 

When it comes to education we have the same issues, boys are given the rough treatment and we are seeing the negative results. Girls — again for ‘just and correct’ reasons — have been pushed and fed the line that education and a thirst for knowledge is the key to life, and as such girls and women are now doing exceedingly well educationally (though more could be done).

 

At the same time, boys have for years been left to their own devices. They have repeatedly heard, “Boys will be boys” when they underachieve. They have been ignored as they gravitate towards role models who call education and knowledge ‘girly’ or ‘gay’, and now boys and young men only make up approximately 20 to 30 per cent of our colleges and are mainly stuck in hellish jobs — if they work at all.

 

Social interaction — here, again, we have the same problems. While girls are taught to be polite and respectful, boys are again left wanting, left to imitate ‘role models’ who are shocking examples of poor manners, etc. They are not taught to be courteous, maintain good deportment, or even speak properly.

 

We want our men to respect women and treat them well — as we should — yet we berate a child because he is a virgin or congratulate an adolescent boy for losing his virginity to a grown woman — which, by the way, is a crime. How can we expect our men to respect our ladies if they are not taught from early on that certain things you don’t do?

 

A serious change needs to be made in how we raise our young men, and it needs to happen fast if we are to both hold back the rising tide of crime and actually grow the economy. With most crimes being committed by underemployed and unemployed men, with men making up the majority of the fatal victims of violence, and with men abusing women (both verbally and physically) it is obvious that our men need some form of attention, lest the situation becomes worse.

 

This change is happening, but at a slow pace, because it is mainly charitable agencies doing this. Men need attention, but not at the expense of women; this much is obvious. If the State really wishes to curb the bad behaviour in our men then they must start when they are boys. It can be done, with boys taking lessons from their mothers and other influencers.

 

Let us hope that this change is done fast. If not, the nation will continue to stagnate as only half the workforce would have qualifications to work, and the seeming increase in spousal murders will continue to rise as our men and boys continue down the path of self-destruction.

 

Alexander Scott is a political and social commentator, legal clerk, sports enthusiast, and proud graduate of St George’s College. Send comments to the Observer or This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it .



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